Why Controlling Situations & People Doesn’t Work…and What Does

What is your 2015 outlook? Maybe you want to learn new things, thrive at work, make positive contributions, and build lasting relationships.  This all sounds great but let’s be real, “How can you possibly control future outcomes?” This is somewhat of a trick question.  We try to control as many things as possible, believing that doing so will increase our chances of success.  The truth is that there are only three things we have any real control over:

  1. Our actions
  2. Our reactions to situations and people
  3. Our thoughts, beliefs, and attitude

Exhausting precious time and energy on attempts to control situations and/or other people is futile.  This year, if you really want to write your own destiny, practice self-regulation.  What is this?  It is control over the actions we take and the decisions we make. When you take the right actions, say the right things, and demonstrate the right attitude; good things happen. Be mindful and stop trying to control the things you can’t.  Focus on what you do have 100% control over – you.  The higher your level of self-regulation, the greater likelihood you will make 2015 a success.

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