Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and understand your emotions so as to manage your reactions in a way that creates positive results. Some of us manage our reactions while others get managed by them.
We all succumb to being ruled by our emotions from time-to-time. It’s part of being human. The key is not allowing ourselves to get stuck in this mode. Remaining here we become overly frustrated, even agitated by situations and/or people. Simply put, we are in a rut.
There is good news. Even when you can’t do or say anything to change difficult events in your life, you always have a say in your perspective of what’s happening. Even better is that perspective frames your emotions more than the actual event does. Thus, you will empower yourself to choose the best reaction(s).
Like a muscle, the more you work EQ the stronger it becomes. Practice self-awareness. Develop an honest understanding of what makes you tick — the good, the bad, and the ugly. Then leverage your new found awareness to actively control what you say and do; in other words, managing your reactions to situations and people.
Make it a personal goal to step out from under the control of your emotions. You always have a choice in how you respond to what’s before you.
Every morning ask yourself, “How are my emotions influencing my behavior?”